10 Ways to Encourage Your Child

Our kids need encouragement.
Not the fake, everyone who shows up for little league gets a medal encouragement, but genuine, you are an important person and you make a difference in this world, type of encouragement.

Making an Intentional Effort to Encourage our Children

1.  Smile – Nobody wants to be around a grumpy looking sourpuss, I’m just sayin’!  Often we go out of our way to smile at strangers, yet spend the day scowling at the people we love the most.  Smile at your children!

2.  Listen – Really take the time to listen.  I know it can be a challenge, especially in a big, busy family.  It feels like everybody is talking at once for most of the day.  Take an extra moment and look your child in the eye, make the effort, it’s worth it.

3.  Encourage Interests – Allow your children to pursue what they are interested in and take an interest yourself.  Let them talk about it with you, ask them questions, genuinely be interested in what they are interested in too.

4.  Let Them Try – We know our children well, but we don’t know everything.  Let them try new things, new activities, new food.  Refrain from saying “you won’t like that”, maybe most of the time we will be right, but what about the times we aren’t?

5.  Let Them Fail – Let them try something, if it doesn’t work, let them fail.  When did failure become such an awful thing?  Failure is simply a new learning opportunity.

6.  Love Them for Who They Are – God created each of our children to be unique.  Particularly as homeschoolers we can encourage them to not be a cookie cutter version of the student sitting next to them.  Encourage them to be the person God created them to be – even if that isn’t what you, as a parent, envisioned.
7.  Don’t Put Down One to Praise Another – Please don’t encourage sibling rivalry by saying things like ” your brother never did that!” “why can’t you be more like your sister?!”  No one wants to feel like they don’t measure up.

8.  Leave Them Alone – Spending a majority of our time with our children can be both a blessing and burden.  It’s easy to fall into micromanaging their every move, to nitpick.  More often than not we need to back off a bit and just let them be kids.

9.  Don’t Be a Dream Squasher – Encourage your children to dream big.  Don’t be the person in their life that says “you can’t do that”.  Either they will stop sharing their dreams with you or they will stop dreaming.  We need big dreamers.  Big dreamers often turn into big doers.

10.  PRAY! – Don’t forget the most important act we can do for our children, pray for them!

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  1. Homegrown Learners says

    Jen – I love #8 – that’s a hard one for me – just leaving them alone!! You have a great list today!

  2. Jessica says

    I try to leave them alone — they follow me!
    I am enjoying these posts. It is interesting to see different perspectives on similar topics. Reminds me of when I wrote for Three Thinking Mothers.

  3. Patty says

    I laughed at what Jessica wrote about trying to leave them alone yet they follow her! So true! You are such a good mama!

  4. Sharla K says

    Love this list! All of it is so very true and something that as moms, we need this reminder often.

  5. Stef Layton says

    Listen – that is my word for 2015. I’m not proud to share that because I want to think I’m a good listener. But truth is I am not. Big work for this year!!
    Great post!!
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